INTP's Creed

Laebum, 10th- Oakland, CA
For me, a good rule to live peacefully is to avoid talking to people as much as I can without seeming weird. Of course, if someone is respectfully talking to me I won’t completely ignore them, but in my head, the logic is, no one can bother me if no one’s around me. Another is to be upfront about my boundaries and intentions. People often try to befriend me and then are shocked or offended when they find that I am not an emotional or submissive friend. Communication is an important thing for me because I don’t have a typical personality, which can be challenging in creating new relationships. I like to have my space, alone time, and I do not do well dealing with others’ emotions, and every person who I’ve told this to has accepted and respected that or went on their way. To coexist with others I try not to make snide comments about people and their pastimes, and I only offer my opinion if it is asked for.

​While I have a very introverted and standoffish personality I take into account what those around me need too. Living with an obnoxiously extroverted person I’ve learned to engage in conversation enough to satisfy talkative types while keeping myself comfortable. At last, I’m only human, and even I can’t perfectly uphold my code constantly, which is why I’ve been working on apologizing for offending or hurting people even if I didn’t see it that way. My love language is physical touch but I ironically don’t like people touching me, so I keep my hands to myself even if the touch could be considered endearing since I could understand wanting personal space myself. One of the most important rules for me to be able to live with myself is to treat negative thoughts as a separate piece of me, like a twin, rather than my true feelings. Since implementing this code into my life I’ve been able to do an unprecedented amount of self-healing, and I’ve known great peace.